YOU ON TOP: Control Your O

"Sometimes, I just want to be the chick in charge," says Micki Taylor, a 28-year-old musician in Los Angeles. The perfect position when you're feeling extra energetic is woman-on-top. And no sane man is going to gripe about being put in his place. "My husband loves to lie back and watch me make love my way," Taylor adds.
When you take the role of Big-O CEO, it's up to you to decide whether you want to have an orgasm via your clitoris or G-spot - both are possible in this position. For the can't-miss clitoral orgasm, lean your torso forward, arch your back, and keep your crotch close to the base of his penis. Try using a rocking motion to maneuver his manhood instead of ride-'em-cowboy body bucking. You should feel the firmness of his pubic bone pressing right against your big-O button. And don't be afraid to pull him upright into your arms for a special heart-to-heart moment.
You can also detonate a G-spot sexplosion by leaning back and resting your weight on your hands while riding up and down on his penis. "It may take a little practice, but this on-top technique is a good way to trigger an internal full-body G-spot orgasm," says Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover (Broadway Books, 1999).
Bonus turn-on tip: Another impress-him maneuver is to grip his penis and do a pelvic bump'n' grind. "I swivel my hips with his penis deep inside me," says Samantha Bower, 26, a choreographer in Boston. "Once I establish a rhythm, I start squeezing my pelvic-floor muscles strategically - guys go nuts when I do that." So crazy she says, that they'll do anything to drive her equally wild with lust. To find your love muscles, stop the flow of urine and notice which muscles flex. Do several sets of 10 hold-and-release contractions of these muscles throughout the day and, in a few weeks, you, too, will be able to give him a lap dance like none other.